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The Daily Journal Returns

Again

By Rex Goode


Categories: LDSR Web Site

About sixteen years ago, I inherited Latter-day Sexual Recovery (LDSR) when it’s founder, Paul, felt it was time to move on. The main feature of LDSR is The Daily Journal, intended for Latter-day Saints affected by sexual addiction to participate in an online forum to get and receive support. It was open to those who struggle with sexual addiction, their spouses, family members, and any other interested party. Participation was anonymous, except for people who chose reveal their identity.

It lasted a good many years, but participation dwindled down to almost a trickle. All of the programming for The Daily Journal and the whole of LDSR was done by me. It became unwieldy to maintain and I went in search of a content management system (CMS) to help me. I discovered WordPress and installed in on the site. I transferred all of the articles and essays to blog format.

WordPress was perfect for the kind of information that was on LDSR, but it wasn’t much good as a bulletin board or forum system. For one thing, it was very difficult to restrict access for the sake of security. In other words, it was too difficult and time-consuming to block people out that were problems.

I tried leaving the forum running on the forum system I invented, but it was far too complicated for users. You could log in on the Daily Journal or you could log into the blog. You could log into both, but they were separate usernames and passwords.

Along came bbPress, a WordPress plugin that allowed me to integrate a forum system into the the WordPress blog system with a single username/password for each user. Now, when people log in, they can respond to the blog or participate in The Daily Journal without logging in twice.

One problem remained. The bbPress system doesn’t let you restrict access. I solved that with a plugin I wrote, called “Forum Restrict”. With it, I can pick and choose who I allow to post in the forums. Now that it is up and working, I’m ready to open up The Daily Journal again to those Latter-day Saints who are looking for support for sexual addiction.

Assuming that you are looking at this post on LDSR, look up to the right at the top. There should be a heading that says “Forums” and a link to The Daily Journal. You have to be a registered user of this site. For help with that, email me via this interface.

Rex Goode

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Single Messages

Communicating with Singles

By Rex Goode


Categories: Gospel,Personal,Singles

Earl L. Butz, 18th Secretary of Agriculture

Earl L. Butz, 18th Secretary of Agriculture

I’m taking a big chance here using a reprehensible quote by an erstwhile political figure, one that got him in considerable trouble and led to his resignation. I’m speaking of the former United States Secretary of Agriculture under presidents Richard Nixon and Gerald Ford, Earl L. Butz.

Known for his insensitivity and objectionable statements, he made a lot of his comments in what he thought were private settings, but the one I’m about to use he said right into a microphone at a World Food Conference. Speaking in regard to Pope Paul VI’s opposition to population control, Butz put on a fake Italian accent and said, “He no playa the game. He no make-a the rules.”

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Wholeness

The Depth of God's Love

By Rex Goode


Categories: Abuse,Gospel,Inspirational,Personal,Sexual Addiction

Me, Eight Years Old

At the root of most sexual addiction is a pivotal event that instilled an ongoing anger in a person. Almost all sexual acting out is based on this anger. Not only is it a poisoner of sexual purity, it affects every aspect of our lives.

We can operate in one of two ways. As a victim or as a survivor.

Whichever way we choose, it will affect every aspect of our decision-making. As a victim, we rationalize our failures, ignore our opportunities, and dwell on our hardships. As a survivor, we strive for success, grasp our opportunities, and dwell on our blessings. (more…)

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The One-Man Myth

Best Friends

By Rex Goode


Categories: Gospel,Inspirational,Personal,Same-Sex Attraction,Sexual Addiction

256px-Baseball_&_MittI had a rough childhood, but not in the way a lot of people think when someone says that. I wasn’t a rough kid. Quite the opposite, I was a timid boy who didn’t do the rough stuff a lot of boys do. It was rough for me because I lived in a highly dysfunctional family with two males who thought that being rough was the same as being a man.

Things weren’t like that for me. I viewed myself as clumsy, awkward, weak, and even effeminate. The two males in my family, my stepfather and my stepbrother, often used the word “sissy” to describe me. In my mind, even though I protested, I believed it to be true. (more…)

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An Excellent Question

What Am I Really Doing?

By Rex Goode


Categories: Gospel,Infidelity

I once heard in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, where I was attending as a support to a client, that alcohol is cunning, baffling, and powerful. I’ve heard the same thing in other twelve-step groups I’ve attended. I am certain that the same could be said of sexual addiction.

Looking way back to the days when my sexual addiction was in full force, as a young adolescent, all of my efforts to avoid sexual behavior were frustrated by what to me was an inexplicable power my urges and desires had. They were powerful enough to overcome all of my internally-held moral objects to the things I was doing. (more…)

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Surprise

Resentment and Comparison

By Rex Goode


Categories: Infidelity

A common excuse given by someone who has committed adultery is, “I don’t know how it happened. It just did.” While I might accept that it could be true sometimes, I don’t think it usually is for most cases.

I know this because I’ve been in situations of my own making where something bad could happen and really wanted to believe that how I got there was a total surprise.  I’m not talking about adultery in this example, just the general idea that you can find yourself in all sorts of hazardous situations and want desperately to make people believe you didn’t know how you got that far. I’ve wanted myself to believe it too. (more…)

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Tunnels

Stopping Contact

By Rex Goode


Categories: Infidelity

Fort Stevens, Battery Russel Bunker

I’ve heard it a hundred times. Whether here on LDSR, on Clean-LDS, with friends, and in other support systems where infidelity arises as an issue, priesthood leaders usually insist that all contact be stopped. Yet, those who have found themselves in these situations often do not understand and will resist committing to stopping contact with the other person. (more…)

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More Subtil Than All the Beasts of the Field

Before the Revelation

By Rex Goode


Categories: Infidelity,Pornography,Sexual Addiction

All Saints parish church, Oakham, Rutland

“Now the serpent was more subtil than all the beasts of the field (Genesis 3:1).”

So says the Bible about the serpent in the creation story, whom we now call Satan or Lucifer. It is interesting to me that the word, “subtil” (as spelled in the King James Version) or the word “subtle” (as we spell it today), refers to a fine, delicate fabric, the feel of which on the skin is nearly imperceptible. (more…)

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A Big Change

The New Forums

By Rex Goode


Categories: LDSR Web Site,Recovery Resources

After months of trying to decide what to do about the support forums here at LDSR, I have succeeded in writing software to interface with the WordPress bulletin board system, bbPress. At last, the Daily Journal and Spouse Support forums are back being available. (more…)

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Rescuing the Daily Journal

A Last-Ditch Effort

By Rex Goode


Categories: LDSR Web Site

For many years, LDSR has been a place where Latter-day Saints affected by sexual addiction have been able to get support from others in similar circumstances. In the past three or four years, participation has been dwindling and now is down to nothing in a very long time. I had in mind to just discontinue the support forums and just keep the literature and blog intact. (more…)

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