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An Excellent Question

I once heard in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, where I was attending as a support to a client, that alcohol is cunning, baffling, and powerful. I’ve heard the same thing in other twelve-step groups I’ve attended. I am certain that the same could be said of sexual addiction. Looking way back to the days when […]


A common excuse given by someone who has committed adultery is, “I don’t know how it happened. It just did.” While I might accept that it could be true sometimes, I don’t think it usually is for most cases. I know this because I’ve been in situations of my own making where something bad could […]


I’ve heard it a hundred times. Whether here on LDSR, on Clean-LDS, with friends, and in other support systems where infidelity arises as an issue, priesthood leaders usually insist that all contact be stopped. Yet, those who have found themselves in these situations often do not understand and will resist committing to stopping contact with […]

More Subtil Than All the Beasts of the Field

I think that one mostly unexplored area of sexual addiction is how undiscovered acting out affects marriages and families. I maintain that pornography in the home has an effect on the quality of the spirituality of the home, even when it is only the addict who knows it is there. I also believe it has an effect on the quality of relationships with spouses and children.

Our Fears Did Cease

One of my favorite vignettes from the Book of Mormon is the story of Zoram and Nephi outside the gates of Jerusalem (1 Nephi 4). To me, it is a great example of the declining art of integrity and trust. It holds many lessons for those who struggle with difficult challenges with relationships. 4 people […]