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Wholeness

For me, that epitomizes the nature of my childhood. There was nothing that could be done to me that was bad enough to overwhelm the love I felt from God. It didn’t really lessen the pain of things like having a lit cigarette touched to my arm or the shame of being forced to perform sexual acts. Those things were as painful and degrading as they would have been for anyone, but thinking of Jesus could soothe anything for me.

The One-Man Myth

I still think that the first thing a man thinks when another man is stumped by, “What did you think of the game yesterday?” is “gay.” It may not be true, but that’s my worry.

The Abuse Connection

Some believe that in order to deal with current issues, one must be enough in tune with the past abuse that they can make a mental connection between current problems and the abuse roots. In other words, if I’m having a difficult time with life, it might help me to see how past abuse may be influencing my behavior today.

New Poll: Behaviors

A new poll has been added to the LDSR blog. This poll is intended for those who struggle or have struggled with sex-related behaviors that have impacted their standing in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints or give rise to feelings of unworthiness.

The Unattractiveness of Neediness

In my long fight with same-sex attraction and my often burning desire to attract the appropriate attention and love of men, I have learned that men are attracted to certain things and not attracted to others. I’m not speaking of attraction in the sexual or romantic senses. It has long been my contention that all […]

Inasmuch as You Desire a Companion

Through the Prophet Joseph Smith, Stephen Burnett was called on a mission to preach in any of the four directions. In the revelation as recorded in Doctrine and Covenants Section 80, the Lord makes reference to a desire of Stephen Burnett to have a companion. The Lord said: …inasmuch as you desire a companion, I […]

Newness

It has been a very long time since I was baptized, almost 47 years now. My memories of the day are faded. I know it happened in the Norwalk Stake Center in Norwalk, California. That stake center is now gone as far as I know. I tried to find it once. The current stake center […]

Counting Days of Sobriety and Staying Sober

Everybody has tried counting days of sobriety. It’s easy. It gives you a tangible way of measuring your progress. When your day counts get larger and larger, it’s encouraging. But then comes the dark side of counting days. It can be a problem when you can’t get past a certain number of days, be it […]

Man Hugs

I’m not sure how to explain why a post about “Man Hugs” is appearing on a web site for sexual addictions. Most men who struggle with same-sex attraction in a context of striving to be faithful to the teachings of the Church will understand. 2 people like this post. Like Unlike See Also A Matter […]

Fear of Success

Cross-posted on Body Images Forum For years, I have battled weight issues. I emerged into adulthood so skinny my dad thought I was going to die, but as the years went on, gained weight–a lot. I went from 6’1″ and 180 pounds to 416 pounds. 80 pounds sounds like a hefty kid to some, but […]