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Don’t Lock Horns With the Devil

Kevin thought he was addicted to pornography. “I must be. I’ve tried so hard to stop. I’ve worked for the last five years at it, and yet I still can’t kick the habit completely.” When I talked to him about his approach, it sounded like he was doing almost everything right. He had opened up […]

Rebuilding Trust

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Rebuilding Trust Rebuilding trust, particularly with one’s spouse, can be one of the greatest challenges in the process of recovering from a sexual addiction. There are many reasons for this. A spouse who has been deceived and wronged is understandably hesitant to open her or his heart […]

Focus on Changing Our Hearts, Not Just Our Behavior

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Focus on Changing Our Hearts, Not Just Our Behavior Imagine that you are determined to circle the globe in a rocketship, and you could choose between two different ways of doing it. Here’s the first option: you could expend enough fuel at the outset to project yourself […]

Change the Way You Do Your Compulsive Behavior

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Change the Way You Do Your Compulsive Behavior We have all made commitments to abstain from tempting behavior. We have also broken such promises–promises to ourselves, promises to our loved ones, and even promises to God. Rather than asking you to promise again, “I won’t do it!” […]

Overcoming Discouragement One Day at a Time

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Overcoming Discouragement One Day at a Time We have no greater right to focus on ourselves when we have been struggling and doing poorly in response to temptation than we do to focus on ourselves when we have been doing well. Both are forms of pride: the […]

Interrupting Destructive Mind-Shifts

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Interrupting Destructive Mind-Shifts When I met Arnold, he had been working for years to overcome his compulsive sexual behavior. There had been periods of progress. Arnold would repent, get his life back on track and then abstain from addictive behavior for a period of time. Notwithstanding these […]

Cultivating a Higher Appreciation and a Deeper Desire

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Cultivating a Higher Appreciation and a Deeper Desire During our first counseling session, one of my clients described his vulnerability to sexual temptation this way: “I have an especially powerful appreciation for female beauty and the female body.” Be the first to like. Like Unlike See Also […]

Becoming Pure Again

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Becoming Pure Again Abstaining from compulsive behavior becomes easirer and easier over time. I recently completed psychotherapy with a client named Rosco after nine months of working together, and it was interesting to hear him describe how temptation’s power over him had gradually decreased throughout that period. […]

Accepting God’s Love for Us

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Accepting God’s Love for Us In the addiction treatment groups I facilitate, group members have the opportunity to “check in” at the beginning of each session, assessing and describing how they’re doing emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Listening to our clients evaluate their spirituality, I have been struck […]

Glimpsing Our True Nature

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Glimpsing Our True Nature The apostle Paul reminded us that, “For now, we see through a glass, darkly. . . .” (1 Corinthians 13:12). In my work, I have wondered whether our view as mortals is ever more dim than when we turn to look at ourselves. […]