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Without Compulsory Means

Though acting in behavior does not generally fall into the category of sins that would require full confession to a bishop, many of those behaviors are damaging to the person doing them and those around him. They lead to abuse, judgmentalism, fanaticism, and violations of the free agency of others. These, to me, seem to be as serious as they can be.

The Enemy in the Secret Chambers

I think it is especially important for the confidence of the wife of a man dealing with this, that he show that he is putting overcoming as a very high priority. The consequences are terrifying.

His Long-Suffering

Over the years I’ve operated, I’ve seen a lot of people come to our support forums and often go as quickly as they came. Some post, get what they feel they need, and disappear. Some leave, thinking they had finally reached a point of no longer needing the support we offer, only to return […]


We’ve had a number of discussions on the Support Forums about sobriety and sobriety dates, especially to the point that there is more to sobriety, particularly in the world of SA, than merely abstaining from acting out. This is from The gospel in words: ‘Sober’ from Mormon Times by Joseph A. Cannon: Generally when we […]

How to Be a Successful Newbie on LDSR

Coming to LDSR is something usually done in a mixture of sadness and hope. The sadness usually comes from yet another experience where we thought we had our sexual behavior under control, but didn’t. The hope is that an LDS oriented environment will be the trick that will make this time different, that this time […]

New LDSR Poll

I have installed a new plugin for the LDSR site that allows me to create a poll and display the results. I want to find out something about the site readers. You can either vote on the poll in the sidebar to the left or here: 1 person likes this post. Like Unlike

The Supremacy of the Gradual

I’ve been operating recovery resources for individuals who struggle with various problems for about ten years now (Clean-LDS and There has been a pattern with people who come to these sites and others I’ve been involved in. I think the majority come because they’ve been looking all over for the fastest and easiest road […]


In the 1840’s, it took a couple of months to get a letter from the east coast to the west cost, all the way around the southern tip of South America. Eventually, the advent of the pony express cut it down to around 11 days. Since that time, the delivery of messages has improved to […]

I Set My Sail

This is something I wrote a few years ago as I pondered my journey out of same-sex behavior into temple marriage and fatherhood. I keep traveling on, but that one destination is one that seemed impossible for so long. Now it’s a memory and new destinations await. Be the first to like. Like Unlike

How to Comment

Commenting around here requires surmounting two barriers to entry. The first, and simplest, is the technical requirements for leaving a comment. The second, and hardest, has to do with finding one’s voice and being willing to talk about the topics this website is about. Be the first to like. Like Unlike