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Heart and Soil

In a Sunday School lesson I attended, the question was asked, “How do we overcome the influence of Satan in our lives?” Though I didn’t specifically hear any wrong answers, I was frustrated that they all had the same basic tone: just decide you are going to not do what he wants you to. 1 […]

Following Your Heart, Following God, When Life Is Out of Control and Impossible

The following is my response to someone in a different setting who is having a legitimately very difficult time in her life right now. She started off by talking about the suggestion someone else made that she should follow her heart. I’m not going to include what she wrote, because I don’t have her permission, […]

The Supremacy of the Gradual

I’ve been operating recovery resources for individuals who struggle with various problems for about ten years now (Clean-LDS and There has been a pattern with people who come to these sites and others I’ve been involved in. I think the majority come because they’ve been looking all over for the fastest and easiest road […]

The Supremacy of the Internal

With all of the tools and resources that exist for dealing with difficult problems, like same-sex attraction, it can be difficult to sort out what is best and most helpful. Not all of the choices are equal, even when they all share the same goal. In The Supremacy of the Personal, I spelled out why […]

I Set My Sail

This is something I wrote a few years ago as I pondered my journey out of same-sex behavior into temple marriage and fatherhood. I keep traveling on, but that one destination is one that seemed impossible for so long. Now it’s a memory and new destinations await. Be the first to like. Like Unlike


I often hear about how important a spiritual program is to healing from sexual addiction.  Along with that goes the routine emphasis that other programs are not as important and often distractions from the sound principles of prayer, scripture reading, and meditation. It often seems to be an either/or proposition, to the effect that, one […]

Capturing: Bringing God into Your Life by Writing.

This concept of “capturing” is taken entirely from Colleen Harrison, and is described in her book He Did Deliver Me from Bondage, which I recommend to every English-speaking member of the Church. This article is a summary of the idea in my words, with an example thrown in. Many of the ideas are Colleen’s, and […]

Going With the Flow

I finally went to college in my forties and graduated at fifty. It’s an accomplishment that I claim some pride in, since I’m the first generation in all of my lineage to get a college degree. It felt good and it has been of great value to me. Be the first to like. Like Unlike

Focus on Changing Our Hearts, Not Just Our Behavior

Sex Addiction Recovery Tips from Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Focus on Changing Our Hearts, Not Just Our Behavior Imagine that you are determined to circle the globe in a rocketship, and you could choose between two different ways of doing it. Here’s the first option: you could expend enough fuel at the outset to project yourself […]